The Integration and Reinforcement of Child and Youth Development program is a development initiative that presents a holistic approach, promoting mutual collaboration among all those involved in child and youth development, from early childhood to adolescent. A primary group of coordination exists involving school teachers, community leaders and parents, while networking and support group would be local authorities and other professionals working in child and youth health and education fields.
Schools are an important context for children’s social and emotional development. In schools children and adolescents acquire skills such as managing negative emotions, being calm and focused, following directions, and navigating relationships with peers and adults. Schools should take the additional approach of integrating the teaching and reinforcement of life skills into their daily interactions with students.
Parent centred relationships are the first and arguably most important contexts for the development of health and life skill education for young people. Communities cannot rely on schools to teach children everything they need to learn in life. Parents greatly affect their children’s behaviour. Children are like sponges; they model parent actions and incorporate what they see into their own lives. It is important that parents provide correct behavioural examples for their children. Negative examples can be detrimental to a child’s development and can lead to bad behaviours.
In the table below “14 IGNORANCES” by Phramaha Wuthichai Vajiramedhi, honorable monk of Thailand, the causes and results of inappropriate parenting practices are listed. It is a good sample for everyone to remind us what parenting practices to avoid;
|1. Parents love the child too much||Child becomes spoiled|
|2. Parents indulge the child too much||Child develops god complex. Parents must surrender to him.|
|3. Parents unable to dissuade the child from wrongdoing||Child lacks the ability to distinguish between right and wrong|
|4. Parents give the child too much money||Child does not learn the value of money|
|5. Parents do not allow the child to learn to become self reliant||Child becomes a spoiled adult who cannot look after himself|
|6. Parents do not promote education||Child grows up with low intelligence, lacking life skills|
|7. Parents over-work children, signing them up for too many after school activities||Child struggles with self control|
|8. Parents do not praise child||Child becomes narrow minded and cannot praise others|
|9. Parents do not teach child to realize merit||Child will leave home without being grateful to the parents|
|10. Parents do not teach child to give||Child becomes selfish|
|11. Parents do not allow children to make decisions for themselves||Child lacks confidence|
|12. Parents do not teach children to appreciate good personalities||Child develops a rough personality|
|13. Parents do not monitor child’s friendships||Child grows up with inappropriate friends|
|14. Parents do not foster reading||Child becomes foolish|
The Fellowship Foundation for Child and Youth Development (FCYD) is committed to working with all relevant stakeholders in order to ensure a high level of mental and physical health for children from early childhood to adolescent. We believe that greater inclusiveness and more civic participation creates opportunities for growth.